This is partly because I don't always say, for a variety of reasons that include:
- life isn't crap all the time
- things are ongoing and nothing new to say
- things are not just my business so I don't feel I should share
- other people are having a crap time too
I digress, slightly. The insight is this:
Having a crap time will do you harm, whether or not other people are having a crap time. Own it. Acknowledge it. Behave appropriately in response.
You can share this with someone else providing they're going to let you. You don't need anyone looking on the bright side or saying 'at least ...' or similar. The point is to feel what you need to feel. Shout or cry if that's you.
I'm very fortunate to have a few friends that totally get this. Possibly they've been wondering when I'll wake up to it myself.
This really is not a call for sympathy though it may seem like it because I haven't been sharing it recently, for all the above reasons.
I've been having a crap life recently.
If you have too, then own it. Don't wallow, but don't pretend either. You'll feel better for it in the end.